Boy or Girl

The first question people ask me after they notice that I am pregnant is "When is are you do." My respond, "January 12". The second question they ask me is, "Is it a boy or a girl?" To which I respond, "I don't know yet." Then comes the puzzle look that says "you big enough and far enough along to find out." Then the question, "Do you want to keep it a surprise?"
So here is the explanation in it entirety. My mother is a Lay Midwife meaning she is not officially certified but has ample experience assisting and being the main women on the seen for several pregnancies. I always thought that when I had a baby my mom would be over the delivery, etc. and it just seems right to have her deliver the baby. People say that they would be too scared to have a home birth but it doesn't seem to bother me maybe because that was the norm growing up.
Anyways, I wanted to get an ultra sound to see if the baby is doing ok or if there is any precautions that need to be taken. So I have called several clinics and doctors to get an ultra sound. The problem is that I have to have my birth through a specific doctor in order to do it at their facility or in a clinic. We just found one place that would do an ultra sound for us but it is all the way in Nevada. Talmage has cousins who have done home births and ultra sounds but we haven't heard anything back from them.
That is my really long explanation of why I don't know if it is a boy or a girl. If all else fails, I will definitely know in 4 months (18 more weeks to go).
I bet you if people got past the second question their automatic third question would be "What are you going to name it?"